:: The Psychiatrist ::

Many people blame their lack of success on what they perceive to be personal obstacles to their growth and development.

~ They blame everyone and everything ~

They were their problems like a badge and use them as an excuse for failure. Some enlist the services of a coach or analyst to help address the problem. Unfortunately, most of them never change and never become successful.

Ofthen, they themselves are the CAUSE & the EFFECT.

I learned this in college. I was always a a fast learner and could cram for almost any exam a one-night session. I didn't like reading and rarely did homework. I'd cut classes and finally developed a guilty conscience because all of my college friends were working much harder than I was.

I decided there was something wrong with me and made an appointment with the school psychiatrist. When I got there, the doctor asked, "What's your problem?"

I said I felt I was a poor student because I preferred goofing off to working.

When he asked my grades and I said A-, he replied, "That doesn't sound like a problem".

He added that if I was happy, well-adjusted and successful, I didn't need a psychiatrist.

From an academic point of view, I'm not sure he gave me the right answer. From a peace-of-mind and well-being point of view, he most certainly did.

Ought to, is not a strong motivator.

Want to, is.

Being out of sync and unhappy with where you are is a problem. But having fun and doing well certainly is not. There are many ways to succeed in life. We should all do what we want, not what we out and not what we should. We can't hide behind our weaknesses.

Complaining about them or bragging will not evoke sympathy. Everyone has weak spots. Achievers find the courage to fix them. If you want to be successful, don't find excuses for failure.

Find ways to succeed. Don't expect a psychiatrist, counselor or coach to prescribe a magic pill to make it easy.

~ GOALS & DREAMS - Norman G. Levine ~

There are so many considerations on your journey to success. I'm too young to become a millionaire, I'm too old, I don't have enough knowledge, I can't speak good english, I don't know math, my Mom won't allow me, my cat force me to stay at home, it was raining heavily, changing of the government policy made me frustrated, the prime minister is this n that, I don't have a car, my girlfriend is sick, sakit perut and the list can goes on and on...

Sampailah, fast forward when you're 65 years old... Looking back on your journey... sharing with your grandchildren etc...

What would you want to share with them? "I'm GLAD I've done this and that... it has brought me to where I am today..." or you want to share "I WISH I've done this and that... I wish I'd grab the opportunity... I wish I'd taken that actions... "

by that time my friends, it was just too late... (or some might says KFC was founded when Kol Sanders was 65 yrs...)

Do you want to use that excuses to wait when you're 65 to be successful? Well, the choice is yours my friends :)

Focus on your GOALS... Focus on your supporters who really want you to achieve your GOALS. Sometimes, they can be so mean to you. But their intention is purely, to bring the best out of you - to achieve your desired GOALS.

Looking back, your success is their success & your failure, is their failure too. In life, never be selfish... When you're down, focus in supporting your team member to achieve their GOALS. In doing so, you'll be inspire to take actions to be like them also :)

cheers!
IAR